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I love it when my Husband blogs for me!Apr
PENNED BY MY HUSBAND, DAVID ROTH, FOR THE GROOM'S POINT-OF-VIEW
Spring has sprung, birds are singing, flowers are in bloom, and love is in the air. "Engagement Season" has passed, but a lot of guys I know have popped the question in the Spring, so this still applies. Rings are purchased, dinners or some other setting is acquired or paid for, the question is asked, dates are set, and the planning begins.
Gents, let’s put some thought into this particular penchant of human society, shall we?
You have decided that your girlfriend is much to your liking and now you want her to share something very special with you; your last name. An excellent choice. Well fella, before you run off all gung-ho to the jewelry store to buy a shiny bauble to adorn your beloved's dainty finger; think. Do you know which cut she prefers, what size of stone she wants, how about the setting or the metal of the ring? Do you know anything about color or clarity? Where are you going to buy the ring and do they specialize in engagement/wedding jewelry? Big question here… are you going to surprise her or is she going to be involved in the choice. Also, make sure you ask about warranties, insurance, guarantees, and trade-ins or exchanges. Knowing the answer to all of these questions will save you a lot of irritation and anxiety, not to mention many dollars.
Now you have the ring, so how best to give it to her? This is fairly easy actually. If your betrothed went with you to select the ring or if you plan on surprising her, it all comes down to presentation. I cannot imagine any person, be it man or woman, who would not be appreciative of any effort to create a relaxing and romantic atmosphere in order to present one's affection. While the setting is important, your timing should be carefully considered. You can’t just pop the ring out, make your request and expect Hollywood to screenplay your proposal. Try your best to create a story that your grandchildren will want to hear over and over again. You both deserve it.
So she accepted and now you have to set the date. Be active in this. Far too many guys think that they are done as soon as she says “yes”. Not really our fault, lads. Society has conditioned us to believe that the date is only important to the women, and that they are the ones concerned with the details. This is just not true. You should take part in most of the planning; not all of it, because let’s face it, some of the details really don’t matter to us. That being written, many of the things about the wedding have as much, if not more, meaning to you than it does the bride. For example, I selected our wedding date to honor the date of my Mother’s passing. My daughters wore red carnations in their hair for the same reason; they were my Mother's favorite flower. My Wife was wonderfully understanding, and now a date that was painful for me is a joyous occasion. I was very involved in many of the details of our wedding and the planning. I enjoyed our wedding day more because of it, especially knowing that I saved my wallet from a complete meltdown.
